“Thank you for helping us get our son back and healthy.”
I am 1000% convicted in what Foundation House is and with the integrity of the organization. Kelly and I both felt it sounded so amazing and a perfect fit for our son. Looking back and knowing what I know, and more importantly how Ian also feels about Foundation House – they were conservative and truly underselling what Foundation House is. To say our expectations have been exceeded would be a huge understatement. We have our son back and he has grown into the man we could only dream of seeing in him. Those are powerful words coming from a father. Thank you beyond words, you all are truly such amazing blessings in our life!
Parent of Foundation House Resident 2017
“Foundation House saves lives and I’ll always put that out into the world!”
I look back at my time on Foundation House with nothing but admiration and respect. It was a piece of the puzzle that formed me into the man I am today. Yesterday I celebrated four years of continuous sobriety. In that time I started refereeing ice hockey. I climbed the ranks after four years and am now a referee at the NCAA Division 1 level. I miss you and I hope all is well. Foundation House saves lives and I’ll always put that out into the world!
Alumnus of Foundation House 2014
“He really clicked with the program at Foundation House”
As you know Sheryl and I came to pick up Evan this past weekend.
It was difficult to leave the place where he has had so much success. But it is time to move on.
We did not know about Foundation House before Evoke and Recovery Counseling recommended it. Indeed we were uncertain as to whether it was the right fit and Evan as you may know was skeptical as to whether there was much more he could accomplish there.
But as you know, it worked out tremendously well. We don’t know what the future holds but we are confident Evan is in far better place than he was a year ago. He really clicked with the program at Foundation House.
There were many people there who were supportive and helpful in his accomplishments. Cort was great on helping him with the project he was working on in the woodshop. Many of the others were helpful in providing advice and direction.
Of course, Woody was a key part of the successes of the past number of months. I can see why other parents recommended him. His commitment to Evan and what needed to be accomplished was marvelous and we have sent him a separate note thanking him.
But none of the experiences and achievements of the past number of months would have happened if Evan did not go to Foundation House. It was not easy for us given we work in Canadian dollars and do not have unlimited funds. But your willingness to work with us on making sure we could find a way for Evan to not only go to Foundation House but to stay as long as he needed to made it much easier. We really appreciate how you made it as easy as you did.
Sheryl and Randolph H.
Parents of Foundation House Resident 2019
“I am forever grateful for all that you have done for Brendon and our family.”
Three years ago Brendon Rauch showed up on your doorstep, a broken soul. Angry, frustrated, confused, unhappy, depressed and drinking to hide his pain. While he was likely not the best patient, he knew something had to change in this path of destruction. The team at Legacy tolerated him, pushed him, challenged him and worked very hard to crack his armor. It was only towards the end of his stay that he started to open up his mind.
He then moved on to Foundation House for the next phase of treatment. He had a very rough start there, as well. While he was physically so much stronger, he was still broken emotionally. The staff at Foundation House tried very hard to get Brendon engaged, they offered so many opportunities for therapy, camaraderie, team and collaboration. I heard the difficulty and concern from those trying to support him.
Barbara was able to break through. She was pivotal in his emotional transformation. To this day I don’t know what happened to this young man who entered high school as one of the happiest, most positive, fun loving kids in his class. Whatever broke him nearly destroyed him and devastated our entire family.
But we were fortunate. We had friends that made us aware of possibilities and programs we had no idea existed. Someone reached out to us in our despair and helped us find all of you. I shudder when I think of my fear for his life and the hopeless feelings of a mom who can no longer help her child. It is a vivid reminder that it has not always been easy and there are others suffering as well.
But, I digress.
My purpose of this note is to tell you thank you. Every day I thank you for what you did to help my son. For today, he is happy and healthy. For today he has a good support group. For today he is back in college. We have learned to be happy for today. I am forever grateful for all that you have done for Brendon and our family.
With gratitude to you and your organizations.
Parents of Foundation House Resident 2016
A Letter to Parents, From Parents
Exhale. That is the best advice I can give you. I know that you feel like you have been holding your breath for days, months, maybe even years. If your kid landed at Foundation House, then he is in the right place. Breathe.
Let go. You think you are in control, but you haven’t been in control for a long time. The sooner you let go the sooner you will start to feel whole again. The pieces of your life will fall into place.
Blind faith. Believe in your child. Believe in the staff. Believe in yourself. Your son needs you to do all of these things. You will need to practice this daily. Fear and anxiety will try to take over, but you can push them away with a little faith.
Live. Your life does not revolve around your son. Do something for yourself that doesn’t require you to think about him. Exercise, hike, write, meditate, join a book club, take a class, etc. Take care of yourself and start living again. The healthier you are in mind, body and spirit, the better you will be able to handle whatever comes your way.
Heal. You are no use to anyone if you don’t start healing. Go to an Al-Anon meeting. Try the Monday phone calls. Go to a family workshop. Seek counseling. Talk to other parents who are in similar situations. Do something. Your son is getting all the help he needs. Are you?
Accept. Accept your son as he is…perfectly imperfect. Aren’t we all? Accept that there is no right answer or quick fix. Each path is determined by the free will of the one walking it. Accept that every time there is failure there is also learning and with that knowledge new paths are created. Accept that time limits don’t exist.
Listen. Talk less. Listen without judgement. When your son is ready, he will want to talk to you about his journey. Really listen. This is no longer about you and want you wanted. This is about him and what he needs. Be present in that moment.
Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work, it means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart. (Unknown) Foundation House is the very definition of peace. Your child will experience real life, but in the center of it all will be his tribe, a band of brothers who will help guide him to a calm heart.
A Fellow Parent
“My son is forever transformed… and so are we.”
I wanted to thank you and your staff for embracing Austin when I had to let go. He is not perfect, but he has traveled a great distance since I dropped him off at Four Circles at the end of November. When Woody spoke with us, we could feel how much he genuinely cares about Austin. Austin is lucky to have him. Sara made a point of telling us that Austin was a gift. Sometimes we need to be reminded of that. So many of the other guys made a point to introduce themselves to us when they realized we were Austin’s parents. They all spoke very highly of him. The bond you all have is undeniable. Regardless of the future, my son is forever transformed…and so are we.
Parent of Foundation House Resident 2018
“As we experience more of what you do, our admiration only deepens..”
We were once again wowed by the expertise, effective approach and obvious love and caring you bring to this calling. Indeed it is infused through the whole team – every single one of whom was a terrific representative of the whole. We remain cautiously optimistic with our family progress. As we experience more of what you do, our admiration only deepens for your skills, what you have created and continue to enhance at Foundation House, and your qualities as people.
Richard & Margot W.
Parents of Foundation House Resident 2019
“He is in such a good place in his life”
I wanted to say thank you for all you have done for my son, Kurtis.
Kurtis is in such a good place in his life. Kurtis absolutely loves his job and working for you as he believes so much in your vision/mission.
I realized this after he called us after your recent St. John service trip to tell us how happy he was working for Foundation House. Kurtis said that he will have his future family give back to the communities they visit as well.
After that conversation, I realized how much more grateful I am to you and the other members of the Foundation House team for helping Kurtis get to a place where he can imagine himself surrounded by a loving family that helps others.
Keep up the great work and know that there are people out there that are absolutely grateful for your dedication to making a difference in our kids’ lives.
Las Vegas, NV
Parent of Foundation House Resident 2018
“I finally have my son back!”
I wanted to let each of you know of my sincere appreciation for what you have done for my son.
As you know, our journey has been a very long one. I have always loved Bobby but, at times, could not stand to be near him. I thought his addiction would surely kill one or both of us. I would have given any of my limbs and even my life if I thought I could save him.
After sending Bobby to the best treatment centers in the country and thousands upon thousands of dollars later, he never seemed to get any better. I was feeling hopeless that he could ever have a normal life or a future. I felt fearful, sad, inadequate as a mother, and depression had set in.
How we got to Foundation House is a mystery. I think God was just tired of my constant begging Him for mercy on Bobby’s behalf. After kicking him out of our home and sending him to Tampa for 3 years, I let him come home one weekend because I thought he was schizophrenic. I knew I needed to at least try to help him one more time. I explained to him he had one last shot of getting well and he would need to pick a place and stay there for several years. He randomly picked Maine??? I had never been there before and knew nothing about it, except, it was at the other end of the world.. and Maine lobster. (LOL)
After reading the web page for FH, we picked it. I must have read every detail on the website at least 10 times a day. I truly thought it was “too good to be true”. I loved the concept, “teaching the boys to live a sober life with money in their pocket.” Having fun sober, learning to exist with a cell phone, a computer, keeping things clean, cooking, supporting each other and mainly BUDGETS, navigating REAL life sober! I don’t think he had ever achieved any of that before.
Bobby liked the part, “FH is not a PROGRAM, it’s an opportunity.” He said he would refuse to go to another program.
I have to tell you that what you have done for Bobby has far exceeded my expectations. The transformation and maturity I’ve seen is nothing short of a miracle. I finally have my son back!
Each of you have played a huge roll in his success and growth. Although, he still has some more growing and moving forward to do, he is better now than he has been in 14 years.
I thank-you Patrick, for all the opportunities you have given Bobby, for believing in him enough to give him a chance to work. I thank you for your help in making it possible for him to stay there for almost 2 years. You have been generous with your time and financial help. I thank-you from the bottom of my heart, and know that without you, this transformation in Bobby would not have been possible.
I thank-you Woody, for your constant caring, helping, guiding, not putting up with his BS, teaching him to grow up and be the man he is meant to be, the man he likes to see in the mirror. Thank-you for the times you didn’t give up on him but redirected him to Four Circles, teaching him to budget, save money, (which is huge in itself). I see him more grateful than ever for what people do for him. I know you taught him to give back to the other boys and be a stand-up guy. You have gone above and beyond helping and guiding me on decisions that needed to be made. Thank-you, Thank-you!
Chris, I want to thank-you as well. Without the wilderness training and your help it would not have been possible for him to continue on. I thank-you for helping him work through his fear and rejection of going back to FH. You and Woody work so well together, like a well-oiled machine. I know Bobby grew through his experience At Four circles. He loved it there.
When Bobby was at Four Circles I had to write an impact letter to him. In the letter I told Bobby, while he was on drugs he had become the “beast” like the beast from “Beauty and the Beast”. Bobby had grown up like royalty, he was the heir apparent. He grew up in the best neighborhood, went to the best private college prep school, had a family that adored him, tons of wonderful friends who truly love him, was amazing at sports, and was written up every week in the paper for his football plays. He was accepted on a baseball team that most boys dreamed of being on. (none of his friends made the cut)
The prince had it all but, he fell under the spell of drugs. He bought into the lies, took the drugs and quickly became the isolated “beast”. He now lived a sad, lonely, life and gave up all the things he loved. Everyone was afraid of him, he lost it all.
Bobby needed to be rescued, as the story goes, he needed his enchanted helpers to draw him out of the drug induced isolation he was trapped in. Each of you were his enchanted helpers, encouraging, and helping him learn to change, and learn to once again love himself. To be the guy he would he would love to see in the mirror.
Thanks to all of you Bobby is happy and thriving. For the first time in years he has a relationship with his sisters. His family loves who he is becoming, he has good healthy relationships with family, and friends. He laughs again, he sees a bright and happy future ahead of him.
Thank-you, Thank-you, each of you, so very much for all that you have done to make this miracle possible. You are each enchanted to us and have made a dream come true. Your programs have not only given him the skills and a new way of thinking but, he now is able to help other people to achieve their full potential. This new found confidence is also giving him the skills to “hold himself to higher standards” This is truly amazing.
Parent of Foundation House Resident 2017
“Most importantly, I’ve never been happier.”
I wanted to let you guys know how I’m doing since I left Foundation House. My first semester back at UNC went fantastic. I made new friends, reconnected with old ones, and solidified my position back at North Carolina. I’m tapped into the A.A. community at school, and have a large network of sober friends to support me. I attend three meetings a week and recently hit 20 months of sobriety. I found a girlfriend who is funny, charming, and supportive.
Most importantly, I’ve never been happier. I feel whole, and that sensation of contentment is due in large part to the tireless work of you three, thoroughly and compassionately supporting me while I stayed at Foundation House. My whole worldview has shifted, and my obsession continues to remain absent. Love you guys dearly, and happy new year. Also, the braces finally came off!
Alumnus of Foundation House 2017